Journey to a New Normal


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Since my mother died, my family and I have had a new normal thrust upon us. While I can’t speak for them, I know that it has been a very trying transition for me. Each day I learn something new about myself. I miss her terribly, but I can feel myself slowly climbing out of the shadows of depression. It still hurts, and I know it will for a long time to come.

I didn’t realize how much she was a part of my routine until she was gone. All the phone calls, e-mails, and visits (all of my vacation days were spent going back home to see her), GONE. Just like that. When I tell people I’m lost without her, I’m not kidding. This new normal is evil, bitter, dull and cold. But I’m finding my way through it inch by terrible inch.

For example, Mother’s Day is coming. I live in the United Kingdom, and they celebrate it earlier than the United States (FYI…the dates this year are as follows: UK = March 30th, US = May 11th). Because of this, I always had to buy an extra card and wait until May to send it, and PRAY that I didn’t lose it before the time came because I am terribly unorganized. Since she died a four days before Mother’s Day 2013, I ended up putting her last card in the casket with her. It breaks my heart to have to stop because it was something I enjoyed doing for her.

But then I had a lightbulb moment: Why do I have to stop? There HAS to be a better way. She wouldn’t want me to give up something that I enjoy! So this year I am going to start a new tradition in which I give a card and gift to another mother, or mother figure, in my life.

This year it will go to a woman in my small group at church. She is one of the kindest women I’ve ever met. She has been going through some tough times lately, so I’m hoping that this will lift her spirits and let her know that she is truly a blessing to me and everyone around her.

I feel that this is a great way to celebrate my mother’s life by doing something nice for someone else.  I think she would have been proud.



What *I* Know For Sure (or LisaThangs) – Part 2

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For those of you who missed Part 1, here’s the link

Originally this was a list was called 40 Things I Know For Sure, but I decided it was too long for one entry and I was just waiting for the right time to post it, if at all.   Ok…here we go…part 2….

21. Your birthday signifies one more year God let you live on this earth. Don’t dread it, embrace it!

22. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness…it is a means of survival!

23. If you can read, you can cook.

24. God puts people in your life for a reason, and removes them from your life for a better reason.

25. Some problems are a little more manageable after a good night’s sleep.

26. No question is stupid.  The only stupid question is the one that didn’t get asked.  It’s better to ask than to never know.

27. When the going gets tough, the tough change into sweats.

28. When you are on vacation from work, being ‘available for emergencies’ doesn’t make you a hero, it makes you a doormat.

29. Don’t sit there and worry about something you can’t control.

30. All you skinny girls out there that think you’re fat, you’re not.   Stop fishing for compliments.

31. Your REAL friends will tell you how you really look, if you have something in your teeth, if you stink, etc.

32. Be nice to the wait staff in restaurants. They have access to your food and drink.

33. The speed limit is there for a reason.  OBSERVE IT.

34. If you’re sick, don’t come in to work.   All you’re doing is spreading your nasty germs around the office.     STAY HOME AND GET BETTER!!!!

35.  Don’t try to be in a friendship/relationship with someone who doesn’t want to be in a friendship/relationship with you.  Also…

36.  Don’t try to be in a friendship/relationship you don’t want to be in.    Your heart will die

37.  Your ‘social media’ pages belong to you.   Feel free to  friend or unfriend anyone you want without guilt.

38.  If a friend says something to you that you don’t like, tell them right away, don’t let it fester.   It will RUIN your friendship.

39.  Do what you have to do before you do what you want to do.

40.  You have a right to know what is going on in your relationship.  The minute your partner says you don’t have a right to know, it’s time for you to leave.


What *I* Know For Sure (or LisaThangs) – Part 1


Every month, on the last page of of O Magazine, Oprah Winfrey has an essay called ‘What I Know For Sure’.   I immediately thought, if she can do it why can’t I?  I can’t be bothered to write an essay (yawn), however I have a list of things that I know for sure.  Please keep in mind that this is what I know for sure.   In fact…I’ll just call them LisaThangs.  I’m going to be cheeky and split it into 2 parts so I can have 2 separate entries for NaBloPoMo.  Ha!   Ok…let’s go….

1.  God is always in control whether you like it or not, so stop trying to put a question mark where He put a period.

2.  If your relationship status says that ‘It’s Complicated’, you might as well change it to ‘Single’, because that is EXACTLY what you are.  It’s similar to being kind of pregnant.
There’s no such thing.

3.  There’s nothing better than your mother’s home cooking.

4.  Women don’t get dressed up to impress guys.  They do it to compete with other women.

5.  Your gut (intuition, sixth sense, inner god or inner goddess, whatever you want to call it) is 100% correct.  ALWAYS listen to it.

6.  It doesn’t cost anything to say hello to someone.

7.  Always say ‘please’ and ‘thank you”. These 2 phrases seem to be disappearing from our vocabulary.

8.  When it’s true love and God allows it, nothing will stand in the way of two people getting together.

9.  Karma is real, and it’s a mofo.

10. Marriage is HARD.  Any couple that says it’s not, is lying.

11. Be kind to one another.  We never know what goes on behind closed doors; everyone you meet is walking through some kind of storm.

12. Traffic is God’s way of getting you to your destination safely.  Speaking of traffic…

13. Always pee before you go somewhere. You’ll thank me if you ever get caught in said traffic.

14. Men who beat/bully/harass/disrespect women, are not real men.

15. Women who beat/bully/harass/disrespect men, are not real women.

16. Some things are better left unsaid to keep someone from getting hurt.   BUT…

17. ….some things need to be said to keep someone from getting hurt.

18. NEVER stay with someone who keeps you a secret.  If they really love you, they’ll want shout it from the mountain tops to make sure that EVERYONE knows that you belong to them and no one else.

19. A good cry can cleanse the soul.

20. No one is better than anyone else.  The only thing in life that is beneath you is thinking that you’re better than everyone else.

To be continued…………

Weekly Photo Challenge: Big

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First of all, I would like to thank the WordPress Community for all of the likes, and to welcome  my new followers.  Thank you so much!  😀

I took this picture when I got home from a not very good day at work.    This rainbow reminded me that all of This (God, the Universe, etc) is much much BIGGER than my little problems.   It made me know that everything would be okay.   I got absolutely SOAKED, but it was worth it.