I have received a lot of great reviews of my blog so far (thank you)! All of your kind words have motivated me to continue blogging.

As I sit here trying to figure out what I wanted to blog about, it hit me: I HAVE WRITER’S BLOCK! I’m stuck! What would Stephen King do in times like this??

STUCK……what a strange word. The Macmillan Dictionary defines stuck as:

1. caught or held in a position so that you cannot move

2. unable to solve a problem and continue working

It got me thinking about the idea of being ‘stuck’.

Whether you are in a bad relationship, an unfulfilling job, or a bad habit, being stuck is very debilitating, and can leave you with a pretty stale outlook on life. So what do we do when we’re stuck? It’s not like we can rub Goo Gone on our partner or boss like we can on a gum-stuck shoe (if I could invent something like that, I’d be a rich woman). We have to use a different and more difficult kind of Goo Gone: change.

My thinking is that you first have to admit you’re stuck and that you want to be unstuck. Next would be to seek advice from a trusted friend, clergyman or even a mentor (if you are fortunate to have one). Then (and this is the biggie), would be to take action: go to couples counseling, dust off your resume, join a gym, quit smoking, etc. Taking action is not for the faint-hearted. It takes a lot of work and dedication to change your life.

Of course, there is another option: you can choose to stay stuck.  Fear of the unknown is debilitating as well. I guess fear would be nasty gum stuck to the proverbial shoe.

But what if being unstuck is worse than being stuck? Ah, my beloved readers,
that’s the risk you have to take. The only way to answer that question is to change.

Hmmm….I guess I didn’t have writer’s block after all….



My Take On Inside The Actors Studio

Hello again.

I am a big fan of Inside the Actors Studio hosted by James Lipton.   For those of you who are not familiar with the show,  it is a one-on-one interview with various actors, writers, directors, and musicians.  The interview is presented as a seminar to students of the Actors Studio Drama School at Pace University in New York.

Mr. Lipton asks each guest a list of 10 questions before the interview ends with a question-and-answer session with the students.  It is the same list of questions for every guest.
While I may not be an actor, I thought I would complete the questionnaire and share my answers with you….

1. What is your favorite word?

Viaduct.   I like the look and sound of it.

2. What is your least favorite word?   

The N word.  It degrades the person saying it as well as the person it is aimed at.

3. What turns you on?

A man that smells good.

4. What turns you off?   

Bad teeth.

5. What sound or noise do you love?

Smooth jazz.  It is chocolate for the ears…

6. What sound or noise do you hate?

People arguing.

7. What is your favorite curse word?   

At a push, it would be ‘asshat’, but there are way too many to choose from!

8. What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?   

A rock star!   Eat your heart out Lady Gaga!

9. What profession would you not like to do?  

Waste managment.    I have a weak stomach.

10. If heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at   the pearly gates?

Well done, thy good and faithful servant….



Open Letter To My Younger Self

I have noticed a trend of people writing letters to their younger selves.   Now that I’ve joined The 40 Club, I figured I might as well jump on the bandwagon, because I have a few choice words for her.  Here goes….

Hey You,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Let me introduce myself.  I am you at age 40.  Yes, YOU.  Yes, FORTY.
You’re finally 16 and you have the whole world ahead of you!    Don’t be in such a hurry to grow up!  Once you get to my age you will wonder where it all went.  Enjoy each and every moment…even the bad ones.

Listen, I know you hate to exercise, but DO IT.   You look great now, and you will look ok at 40, but just OK.  Don’t worry about what the number on the scale says.  Look in the mirror and see what everyone else sees.    YOU LOOK AMAZING.  Don’t smoke, not even occasionally.   You will fight a battle with nicotine all your life.   We’re stopping again…here’s hoping it’s for good this time.  You can drink if you want, but don’t go crazy.  You won’t be able to hang with the crowd that you will meet later on.   Don’t try to keep up with them…they’re a lost cause.    SAVE your money.  Save YOUR money.  Save your MONEY.  SAVE YOUR MONEY.  Don’t waste it on shit you don’t need.

NOW…let’s talk about your love life.    YES, you will have one.  You will ALWAYS love these men, and it’s ok.    These guys will be put into your life to teach you that you deserve better. They will also help you appreciate The One when he finally decides to show up, so don’t let them shatter your spirit.  You are an extraordinary person, my beautiful girl, and you will meet The One in an extraordinary way, and have to fight extraordinarily hard to keep him. Don’t worry.   The One is on his way.

You will hear the phrase ‘love thyself’ all your life, so I will end this letter with these kind words:

I Love You…

Me  xoxo


Welcome To My Blog….Won’t You Come On In?

Hello, and welcome to my blog. I figured I should get this up and running since everyone else seems to be doing it except me! I’m still not exactly sure what I want to blog about. I’ve decided that the mission of this blog is to write about a little bit of this, and a little bit of that. I truly hope you find something that will make you laugh, cry, think and reflect. My intention is NOT to offend anyone, so I apologize in advance if I do so.

Now, a little bit about myself. I am a 40 year old African American woman that is originally from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania USA (Go Steelers, Pirates, Penguins, PITT & Riverhounds!!!!). I now live in the United Kingdom with my VERY British husband, and my VERY British dog. I work for an IT solutions firm. Life in the UK has been quite an adjustment, but I think that slowly but surely I have a carved out a tiny niche for myself. I am constantly struggling with my weight. (I’m sure I’ll blog about that at
some point…stay tuned). I love to read, watch television (mainly sports), play video games, and karaoke. I also love to sleep and eat. A lot. Those are the two things that I’m REALLY good at.

If you decide to comment on any of my entries, please keep it clean, and most definitely no character assassinations.

Read on….and enjoy.